It’s not always easy to manage your stress as a parent. In fact, some parents might say that can be as tough as raising children itself. Over time, however, it is essential to care for. Neglected stress can only build, bottle itself up, and then lead to difficulty, be that losing your temper with your children in public, physical health effects like poor sleep and anxiety, or even straining your relationship. As many partners with children know, a child is the most strain you will ever have on your partnership, and so it’s important to be prepared for that.
Luckily, there’s no hard prescription required here. You just need some time to address your stress when you can, and preferably make time for it. For some, that’s harder than others, but you will no doubt have at least a little free time to focus on it.
It’s important to emphasize that there’s no shame in this. You’re in no way less masculine or a robust father for needing to take a break, a step back, or focus on number one, even if you do provide for everyone in the household on a constant basis. It is foolish, however, to think you can constantly live with difficult stress with no respite in perpetuity:
Share The Load If You Can
It’s good to share responsibility with your partner. Of course, this sometimes means determining what it is both of you should take charge of. So if you have a full time job and your partner lives at home, or if the roles are reversed, then it might be figuring out who is responsible for what.
Here you can also determine how to better flip up those tasks so they seem fresher than they otherwise might be. So it might be that you drive to work straight after taking care of the school run, but your partner is happy to wash, dress, and prepare your children for the day ahead also.
Take Breaks Where You Need It
Of course, many issues can encroach on your free time. If you’re a single Dad with two young children, odds are you’ll have less time to play your five-a-side football game three times a week. But taking breaks where you can find them is worthwhile.
Perhaps after you’ve put your children to bed at 9pm, you get a few hours to relax, watch some television, and perhaps even enjoy a naughty drink. Just make sure your free time is healthily measured and that you always make sure to prioritize sleep where you can. If you’re struggling for sleep, sometimes herbal remedies like valerian root or Delta 8 THC Vape Carts may help.
Be Transparent With Your Children
It’s important to be transparent with your children where you can. If you’re feeling a little stressed, let them know. Of course, this doesn’t mean your children should be used as an emotional dump in any way. But it’s also good to beat the ‘constantly stoic Dad who never opens up’ stereotype.
This way, you can encourage healthy emotional development in your children too, and remind them that feeling stressed or irritable if handled responsibly and communicated with respect, is not something to be ashamed of. It will also ensure that you manage the balance of emotional care between you and your partner, as opposed to letting your partner deal with the discipline and you only serving as ‘the fun Dad.’ It will help you develop a mature and caring relationship with your children.
Of course, be reasonable here, and allow children to be children without burdening them with every issue at your job. But know that trusting them with good communication can also help you deal with your stress too, and inspire them to behave better for good reasons (as much as they can understand as children), not only the threat of discipline.
What Should A Dad Be?
Of course, there are some good principles as to what a Dad should be. Strong, caring, available, present, and willing to teach lessons. But don’t confuse this with being emotionally cut off, perfect in every situation, or never feeling as though your daughters can dress you up as a princess for fun’s sake. It’s often these memories that are the most hilarious and fun to cherish.
With this advice, you’re sure to manage your stress as a Dad in the best possible way. Just remember that you do need to address it, and in the future you’re sure to thrive.