Being a parent is no easy feat and is going to be filled with lessons, every single day. That doesn’t mean you are a bad parent! It is just a journey that everyone goes on. There will be things you do right, and things you wish you had done differently. Every parent goes through this, and there is nothing wrong with it. But, to help you on your journey, there are some very common mistakes that people make that can easily be avoided with a little awareness of them. Read on to learn more.
Setting unrealistic expectations
As a parent, it is easy to set very hard-to-reach expectations for yourself. This is a normal thing to do, but it can be a big mistake and will cost you a lot of energy and stress that you don’t want to project onto your children. You don’t have to set any expectations at all when you become a parent, because things will change and it will be completely unpredictable. Try to surrender and go with the flow.
Not having a support network
A support network is one of the most important things you can have as a parent, and if you don’t, you are making a big mistake. There are a variety of support groups for new dads and mums, as well as engaging with your friends and colleagues who also have children. This is a great way to share your experiences, swap knowledge and lessons, and just spend time with people who know what you are going through. You can also help each other out when you want to take time for yourself or need a hand with something.
Not setting boundaries
Parents who don’t set boundaries with their children are making a mistake. It can be difficult at first, especially if you are not used to setting them. You should start by thinking about your needs, and your children’s needs, and the places in your life that need boundaries. It is a good idea to get clear on these yourself, and then positively give clear instructions to your children, making the consequences of crossing the boundaries suitable and fair. Boundaries are a good way to stay in control as a parent and create a good life at home with your family.
Not leading by example
Your children are sponges and soak up every piece of information in your home. You must lead by example and be a good role model to your children. You cannot ask them to do things that you wouldn’t or don’t do yourself. Make sure you engage your children with open and honest conversations, adopt healthy coping mechanisms, and undertake good habits. The more good you are doing in your life, the more your children will follow in your footsteps and lead a good life too.
Being a parent is a tough journey filled with ups and downs. To help you along the way, consider these common mistakes to avoid.