We have some neighborhood kids that tend to hang out near our house and Diva-J has always been drawn to enjoying playing with kids that are older than her more than kids her own age. Sometimes this is fine, while at other times she can get taken advantage of by these older kids.
There is one, as I call it, fair weather friend that tends to come around on some days and on other days will not give Diva-J the time of day. This same “friend” tends to come over when Diva-PJ is outside as she likes babies.
It is difficult to help Diva-J understand the difference between friendship and real friendship. She also does not always understand the underlying mean nature that sometimes is occurring around her, as when I address the issue, she defends these “friends.”
It is at these times when I am at a loss for words, as I want Diva-J to have friendships, but at what cost. This also leads back to an earlier post that I had about being able to let go. It also though goes into the idea of when do you step in and save your child from others. I tend to try and let Diva-J learn some things by herself, but there have been times when I knew that she was being taken advantage of where I stepped in and said enough is enough and set the record, and the child affronting my child, straight.
So how do you teach your son or daughter about who is a true friend and who are just going through the motions so that they are somewhat held harmless? What have all of you done in the past?
In looking into this I found a few links I thought I would share with you all!
Recently I have been thinking a lot about connections. Connections with old friends, making new friends. I even guest posted about this over at Discovering Dad recently. As I have been posting as a Dad blogger I have come to find that there truly is a community of guys out there that want to talk about their experience being fathers and talk about issues that relate to men in specific. I have met some great individuals through cyberspace and have connected with them in various venues such as through my profiles on social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter or Linked In.
I have go so far as making my own fan page for Dad of Divas, with limited results. I have joined a number of facebook groups aimed at dads including:
I also lately have been a bit more active on the Art of Manliness Community site, and even had a chance to meet in person with one of the members that was visiting in my area. We had a great lunch and I am looking forward to keeping in touch with him.
I am very interested in hearing people’s thoughts on how they connect with other dads. Have you made friends through social networking, blogging, or other venues? How do you balance these friendships with being a father, husband, employee, etc.?