About the Book and DVD – What They Say
We need to be blunt here: sexual dangers are monumental for today’s teenagers. With TV, teen magazines, music, and movies promoting sexual activity among teens, your kids are exposed to images making sexual activity look exciting and even popular.
Think of all the kids at school talking about how “far” they went on a date last weekend or even last night.
The pressure for your teen to be more sexual, including engaging in sexual activity, is stronger than ever. With all the talk of fondling, oral sex, and intercourse among today’s teenagers, how do you protect your daughter (or son)?
You know the old parenting tactics of the past will not work with your children, and letting them find out on their own is way too dangerous and scary! Why is “making your child safe” such a daunting task? Because you can’t always be there to protect them, especially when they’re dating or going to parties where “hook-ups” are going to happen.
With parenting magazines and websites typically geared at parents of kids under 10 years old, where do you find advice for talking to you teen? Have you tried talking to your teen about dating, sex, and intimacy? Isn’t it amazing how teenagers don’t believe you can possibly understand the feelings they are going through
“The Look.” If you’ve tried talking to your teen about dating, then you’ve probably already gotten the “look.” You know the one. The look of “don’t even bother.” Sometimes you give your kids that same “look” when you get frustrated with them. The more annoyed you become, the more you start to lecture. Let’s see if you can relate to any of the responses below:
Usual teenager responses to” the talk”
– Rolling of the eyes
– The look of “You don’t know anything. You don’t get it.”
– “Yea, Yea, Whatever” as they walk away.
– “I am not talking with YOU about this.”
– “I’m not doing any of this stuff anyways. You don’t need to worry.”
– “I get it, okay?”
As you know, many teenagers love to talk with their friends about intimacy, dating, boys, girls, and even sexual situations. If they are having fun talking to their friends while getting lectured to by their parents, who are they likely to follow? Think back to your teenage years for a moment.
As a parent, trying to “figure this out” on your own can be a very difficult. Once you say one statement your teen feels is not “cool”, you can lose your credibility with him or her. Then you are likely to fall into 1 of 2 traps. You try to overcompensate and suddenly be cool or you go into the “Because I said so” mode. Now your teen is reminded of how much you don’t understand them or their world. Suddenly, you’ve lost a golden opportunity for a vitally important connection to your teenager. Who wins? Their friends. Who loses in the longun? You and your teen!
You can protect your teen
To overcome this communication barrier and truly protect your teen from today’s dangers, you need a precise and proven plan of what to say and how to say the right words. Once you understand the dynamics to this comprehensive plan, talking with your teenager about dating and sex no longer has to be synonymous with arguing and frustration.
Whether you are deciding the right age for them to start dating or discussing a date trying to go too far with them sexually, being properly prepared is the key to you helping your teenager make the safest choices.
You must find the way to engage your teenager in a caring discussion.
As you start having more personal talks together, you must be careful with every word you choose to share with your teenager (including “how” you say it).
You need to fully explain the “why” behind every belief you share with them and they have to believe in the reasoning.
You have to understand exactly what encourages an open discussion verses the statements that stop your teenager from turning to you in a time of need.
Having read all of this…you know your communication is key in keeping your teen safe. Sounds fine, but now you need real-life examples to show you how.
You’re a busy Mom – that’s a given. So, wouldn’t it be great to have a simple DVD you could watch with your teenager that actually teaches you how to connect on these tough issues? A movie that brought you and your teenager closer together than ever before? No, not one of those corny educational DVDs that make teenagers feel like they are 2nd graders. This DVD would be fun, interactive, cutting-edge, and thought-provoking for both your teenager and you. Good news, this DVD does exist:
“Help! My Teen is Dating. Real Solutions to Tough Conversations.”
This 85 minute DVD will help you start a fun, thought-provoking, and meaningful conversation between you and your teenager. Seriously.
Nothing can replace visually seeing and hearing the examples shared in this interactive DVD, especially the clear-cut way to word delicate conversations with your teen. You and your teen will find yourselves asking each other questions and appreciating each other’s views. Best of all, your teenager will realize what a valuable resource you are for them.
Think about how much better you’ll sleep knowing your teenager values herself AND the person he or she is dating.
Mike Domitrz created this interactive DVD with you in mind. Each year, he travels across North America speaking in schools and to parents [Watch CBS News Feature]. As one of the most sought-after experts, he continually hears directly from teenagers. Their e-mails and comments over the years have provided him with an inside understanding of what teenagers want and need from their parents. He takes those findings and reveals how you can use these “inside secrets” in your own home to enhance relationships with your sons and daughters in this one-of-a-kind DVD.
“Help! My Teen is Dating” has the answers you want
- How and when to start the talk and get your teen to listen.
- The best way to discuss the dangers: from alcohol to sexual assault. Necessary skills to get your teenager to make good choices.
- Three questions that define whether your teen should be dating.
- Essential tips to fun and safer dating for your son or daughter.
- What to say to your teen’s date!
- The exact words for addressing intimacy.
- The power of “Asking First!” How to establish clear and reasonable boundaries.
- How to truly “be there” for your child.
My Take on the DVD and Books
When I received the DVD and books in the mail, I was excited to watch it and see how it approached problems and situations that teens today have to deal with. I had heard some good things online and thus, I had high expectations. I watched the program and enjoyed it and definitely could see how this would be a good item to consider using with a teen to open up some great conversations with your child.
One thing that I was truly impressed with was how attuned the presenter was with teens today. He talks right to the teen and the parent and helps then to try and identify common ground to stand on to start from. The books are also written in such a format.
I would definitely recommend this program to any parent of a teen today, it would definitely help you to level the playing field and open the door for conversations to begin.
If this sounds like something that you would like for your own family, you can find it on Amazon!
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