I know the answer to this title is a resounding yes, but let me go further. Have you ever had a time when you have felt like the worst parent in the world. Where you children have taken you to the limits and back and still press the boundaries further?
Yesterday was one of those days for J-Mom and I. Diva-J our oldest has lately been a bit of a challenge (to say it lightly), being demanding (to say the least), bossy, defiant, etc etc etc. We have tried many ways to combat this from time outs to limiting privileges, and sometimes they work, but there are other times where they do not even seem to make a dent in the overall issue that is occurring.
J-Mom and I have tried our best to be informed parents. We read (J-Mom more than I) about many different ways to combat this, from Jim Fey and the Love and Logic principles to Sal Severe’s principles on changing your own behavior to impact your child’s behavior to list a few. Yet, as I have said, the tricks seem to not always work.
At times I feel as if we give Diva-J too many chances and we are getting to the point where J-Mom and I are feeling like it should almost be a one shot or your out type of scenario…as there is only so much time that we can take to allow for Diva-J to eat her dinner before we have to say dinner is over, even when it leads to a dramafest of activity.
We know that much of her behavior to date has been promoted by the birth of Diva-PJ as many of these issues became at least amplified after Diva-PJ’s birth. We thought we had done a good job at preparing Diva-J for Diva-PJ, but I guess not. Not that Diva-J is outwardly hostile toward her sis which she is not, but instead she turns that hostility (at times) towards mom and dad…it simply gets to be a bit frustrating as you can probably imagine.
I have definitely not gotten into all of the details of the situation but I think you get the gist of it… So how about all of you out there…what are your tricks of the trade?