The first tenet of the 4 Way Test is one that I think we all grapple with daily. Is it the truth? Is what we are saying to others true or do we live under the constraints o a PC world that promotes half-truths and sometimes lies?
Daily I run into people that say what they think you want to hear instead of what is true. Is this wrong?Has our society today become so worried about hurting others’ feelings that telling the truth has become taboo? I hope not!
This rule of the 4 Way Test is an important one in business relationships and practices, but also in all of our everyday lives and in what we teach our children.
I feel strongly that it is important to have your children grow up knowing that telling the truth is expected, no matter what the outcome. As I tell my eldest daughter Diva-J, “I would much rather hear it from you then from someone else.”
These lessons will transcend and will allow our children the potential of breaking free of the chains of being PC all the time. Now I am not saying that all truths should be made clear as some truths will hurt others so there is a fine line between promoting whole truths and half truths. For example, if someone says, “do I look fat in this?” If the person does, do you still tell the truth, or not? This is a moral dilemma for all of us to grapple with.
What this part of the 4 Way Test was getting at originally was that in business practices we should always tell the truth and make ourselves transparent allowing ourselves and our companies to share and be clear in all aspects.
Does this also not make sense in our personal lives? Would it not be wonderful if everday you could live your life this way with your family, friends and other loved ones? I know this may seem a bit Pollyannaish, but the 4Way Test has definitely been working for the past 60+ years, so now, why not move it to the next level in your own personal lives?
So let us all work to go back to our childhood days where telling the truth was celebrated and bring back n ethos of truth in our business and personal lives as well as sharing this with our children which will gain so much from this discussion. As someone once said to me “You tell on the lie or it will tell on you!” This is so true, and I have had it happen in my life where the lie does come out in the end…so why even lie in the first place!
So My Question For The Day?
- How can you live this tenet of the 4 Way Test on a Daily Basis?