This is the third part in a series of three that talks about moving with children and things that you and I can do to assist them and lessen their overall concerns and stress during this period of time. In case you missed it you can read the first part of our series, I encourage you all to read about how to assist children during the Pre-Move as well as the second part of assisting children during the move.
I asked Jeremy from Discovering Dad, Tyler from Building Camelot, Joey from Daddybrain, and Josh from Raging Dad to share their experiences with you. I hope you will enjoy this series and look forward to your comments!
————————————————————————————————- Similar to losing a loved one, kids need time to mourn the move. You may need time for this as well. Personally, I’ve never felt the need to do so, but others in the family have and I respect their needs. I also try to create an environment where I validate their feelings, even if I rarely agree with them. Each move we’ve made has been for the right reasons, so while it may not be “perfect” at the time I always viewed us as being one step closer to our goals in life. As such, after the move, just like before the move, I always try to maintain a positive attitude and help family members find the good in the situation.
We moved into a neighborhood that was a little older (16 years). It is warm and inviting with plenty of trees, and a park down the street. The backyard is almost 10,000 square feet, so the kids love it (it’s a pain to mow though). We made sure the local school was one of the better ones (again, thanks to my wife). Basically, we placed ourselves in an environment that was far superior to where we were.
I’m sorry I don’t have better answers.
I do have to say that we all struggle with the isolation felt from being 800 miles away from everyone we love. There are no visits to grandma’s and grandpa’s house. There is not help for us when we’re at our wits end. It’s just us – 24/7 – and it feels pretty grueling.
Thanks for listening. I hope this helps.
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Jeremy (Discovering Dad) says
Thanks for having me as part of this great series Chris! Definitely some good insights (that I hope I don’t have to apply anytime soon!) 😉
Dad of Divas says
Thank you to Jeremy, Joey, Josh and Tyler for being a part of this series. I know that it is never easy to make a move, but I hope that these words of wisdom will help if any of you do have to move with kids in the future!
Tyler @ Building Camelot says
@Chris: Thanks for having me as part of this series. Like I’ve said before, I hope I don’t have to think about moving for a long time. But, you know life – it can change on you in a heartbeat and this series has had some great advice.