Our 465th Dad in the Limelight is Dave Engledow. I want to thank Dave for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is Dave Engledow, although on the internet I’m more commonly known as the “World’s Best Father.” I spend my days working full time for Working America (the community affiliate of the AFL-CIO). During my free time on weekends I shoot, edit, and along with my daughter Alice Bee, star in an ongoing photo series that satirizes common stereotypes associated with fatherhood. This project also serves as a vehicle for me to humorously make fun of my own insecurities and fears about being a new father.
Find out more about me here: https://www.facebook.com/EngledowArtPhotography.
Also, my photography has led to a book that you can find here – http://www.penguin.com/book/confessions-of-the-worlds-best-father-by-dave-engledow/9781592408894.
2) Tell me about your family
My wife Jen is a Lieutenant Colonel in the US Army, currently stationed at the Pentagon. Our daughter Alice Bee is 3 years old and has already established herself at the top of our household chain of command.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
My largest challenge is keeping in mind that Alice Bee sometimes acts the way she does because she’s only three, and not because she’s a total psychopath.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Spend less time reading advice and more time reading, playing and talking with your kid.
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
Haha. Really? I mean, I’ve heard stories about fathers who’ve figured this one out, but I’m convinced that it’s just an urban legend. Me? I’ve been to four movies in the past three years, and one of those was Frozen.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
The most prescient and prevalent wisdom I’ve received from other fathers is to enjoy every minute because it’s unbelievable how fast kids will grow up. I’m already experiencing this with Alice Bee–it’s unfathomable to me that she’s already three years old, and I have no doubt that she’ll be getting her driver’s license and leaving for college before I know it.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Fatherhood is the most amazing experience of my life. Every day, Alice Bee does something that just blows me away or says something that makes me laugh out loud. I never thought I’d be capable of loving someone so intensely and so unconditionally.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
For me, the most memorable experiences are the little things–especially the conversations. I’m constantly surprised by the way Alice’s developing mind works, and she is constantly cracking me up. For example, one of my favorite interactions happened shortly after her second birthday. She had been experiencing diaper rash at the time, so we were attempting to temporarily reduce her intake of certain acidic foods. After excitedly telling me that she wanted a cherry tomato, I had to try to explain to her that she couldn’t eat it because it might make her bum hurt. She looked up at me like I was crazy and said, “But I wan’ put it in my MOUF!”
If you have any questions for Dave, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!