Our 304th Dad in the Limelight is Jay Schultz. I want to thank Jay for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is Jay Schultz and I am a proud Christian father of 2 great little boys, the oldest is almost 3 and the youngest is about 11 weeks. I grew up on a grain farm and after high school attended univeristy to study agriculture and continue to search for ways to improve our family farm. I love to be active whether its skiing in the mountains or wakeboarding at the lake. My “guys time” is spent playing hockey, tennis, wing night, or working. Typically I’m not one to search or demand the spot light. My wife is an avid blogger @ http://www.nurselovesfarmer.
2) Tell me about your family
University is where I met my wife Sarah who was studying to become a Registered Nurse. The grandparent version is we met on campus, but we actually met on a Halloween pub crawl and were both wearing togas. Nurses and Farmers go together like peas and carrots and is very common where I’m from. Maybe it’s the flexible schedules or similar inherent occupational traits, or the fact that my mom, as well as 2 sisters, are nurses. We were married and then after university, moved back to the family farm for me to work along with my father while Sarah started at the local hospital.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
The largest challenge for me being a father is taking care of the kids when Sarah goes to work. Its a challenge because quite often Braden comes with me to the farm to work on a few projects whether its trucking grain, pushing snow or discussing business with my parents. Being around farm equipment can be extremely dangerous and only takes a slight misjudgment to cause an accident. I want to ensure I can teach my boys about farming and give them those unique experiences while teaching them to be safe. Its wonderful but scary to see how drawn to farming and big machines Braden is.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
If I could offer any advice to fellow dads it would be that don’t neglect your relationship with your spouse. Having kids drastically changes your focus in life from yourself and spouse to your children. Kids learn a lot from how you interact with others and it’s important to keep healthy relationships with the people most important to you.
5) Seeing that you (or your position) are in the limelight, how have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? If you are currently not in the limelight per se, please still answer this in regards to how you balance parenthood and outside life.
I have a unique job in that my family and work are one in the same. This is a blessing and a curse at times. I’ts not hard for me to balance because I can involve my family in it. Sometimes it can feel like I’m always at work but this changes with the seasons. There is the odd trade show or conference that I travel to but I know I can rely on my wife to keep things running smoothly at home. If I need to have some “guy time” it usually occurs after the kids have gone to bed.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
I’ve learned so much from my own father and have a great relationship with him. We work well together and have a mutual respect for one another. The odd time we might get into an argument but is forgiven and forgotten the next day. He is a shining example to me and hope to be as good of a father to my own kids. In the past couple years my wife’s father has broken a lot of relationships and hurt a lot of the family. This has also been an example to me to never take anything or anyone for granted. A life time of building relationships can be destroyed in a very short amount of time.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
I can remember talking with Sarah about having kids after we were married. Trying to decide when the right time was to start trying. I knew I wanted kids, but was terrified to start trying. In a short nine months an idea becomes a new person. I was never around babies much and I am still not really a baby person. But once you have your own that parental instinct kicks in and I can’t imagine life without them. They are the joy in my life and I want to be there every step of the way.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
The most memorable experiences for me would be rocking my kids to sleep late at night so Sarah can get some rest. Teaching them things like how to do a puzzle, how to skate or catch a fish. Sharing experiences with them like running into the ocean for the first time or riding a bike. When they look back at you with an expression of amazement and self accomplishment, that’s what being a dad is all about for me.
If you have any questions for Jay, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!