Dads in the Limelight
Our 338th Dad in the Limelight is Brent Almond. I want to thank Brent for being a part of the Dads in the Limelight series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
2) Tell me about your family
I’ve been with my partner Nick for 15 years. We had a commitment ceremony in 2003, and plan to get legally married this year! We have a 3 year-old son, Jon. He is adopted, and we were lucky enough to get him the night he was born — he spent his first night with us in the hospital, and has been keeping us on our toes ever since. We also have a 7 year-old Portuguese Water Dog named Cordi — she’s a very patient big sister, and she and Jon love swapping toys… and kisses.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Finding time to do all I want to do in life (work, blog, friends, husband, etc), as well as the time it takes to be a truly good father. They often overlap, but sometimes they don’t and there just never seems to be enough time in the day. I am writing this at 11:41 pm.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Everyone says “Having a child is totally going to change your life.” Believe them. And ever since becoming a dad, my mantra has been, “I’ve never felt so young and so old at the same time.” I didn’t become a dad until 40, so I don’t have the energy I might have had a few years earlier — but it also is such an energizing experience. Seeing things through his eyes, experiencing things with him for the first time, re-learning all of the songs you sang as a kid. It’s been a blast!
5) Seeing that you (or your position) are in the limelight, how have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far? What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
It’s been more difficult than I ever could have imagined, but also more wonderful than I ever could have imagined. Iv’e experienced a wider range of emotions in these 3 years than in my whole life before combined! I love seeing my boy grow and learn, to be passionate about the same things I am (super heroes, music, etc) and to find his own passions (dinosaurs, generally running around non-stop). I can’t wait to see what happens next!
I’d say the first and most memorable experience was the whole process of his adoption, getting to know his birth parents and the completely different world they came from, being there the night he was born and living in a hotel for 2 weeks until all the paperwork went through, flying home with him (cross country), coming home to a house full of baby supplies and gifts friends had left for us.
And most recently, we traveled to Italy to visit my husband’s parents and extended family, and so Jon could meet them. Flying across the ocean with a 2-1/2 year-old was no piece of cake, but he was a real trooper, and of course he charmed everyone he met while in Italy. My husband really enjoyed reconnecting with family, some of which he hadn’t seen since he was a boy. And I loved being enveloped by a giant, loving Italian family — and was especially happy to bond with my Father-In-Law, who up to that point had only spoken a handful of words to me in the 15 years I’d been with his son. Definitely the trip of a lifetime!
If you have any questions for Brent, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!