Our 741st Dad in the Limelight is Adam Leonhardt of the Mega Dads Blog and Podcast. I want to thank Adam Leonhardt for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Adam Leonhardt with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
2) Tell me about your family
I’m married to my awesome wife Kristy and we have a two year old son, Elliott. We live in Minnesota with our two awful cats and we love being weird and goofy together as a family. It’s very important to find someone who can support and encourage you in your dreams. Kristy has been very instrumental in propping me up when things get stressful in all of my endeavors.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Finding time. There is nothing more challenging than finding time for yourself, your wife, your child and your every day obligations without giving something up in return. It’s something that I openly struggle with and it can drive you crazy if you’re not careful.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Be true to yourself and your family. As a parent you’re going to go through identity challenges. You’re no longer just your personal vision of yourself, when you become “dad” you become something so much more than you were before. It’s important to recognize that, embrace that, but ultimately you have to define what that means for you. Don’t change who you are, just be the best version of who you are for your family.
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
You can’t. I mean, we try to say that you can, but the harsh truth is there is no outside life. It’s all the same thing. So it’s about fitting those other aspects of your life into parenthood. Even when you get a babysitter or take a vacation you’re still a parent and that’s still the biggest part of who you are. For me it’s become a mission to schedule time for myself so that I don’t feel like it’s one thing versus another in regards to my time. It sounds sterile and not very fun, but it can be a big help when you have a lot on your plate.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
We’re all in pain, and none of us would change it any of it for anything.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
My son is at an age where his personality is exploding at a crazy pace. He’s learning things and defining his character so quickly. It’s almost like he’s a different person every day. I would tell new dads to really appreciate every moment with your kids to the fullest because tomorrow they may stop doing saying something a certain way, or playing with that favorite toy. Kids change quick, it’s a crazy ride.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
Currently it’s that my son loves some of my favorite things. He loves Foo Fighters and Hall and Oates music, he loves Super Mario and he’s starting to create art. I can see myself in him and it is the greatest feeling in the world.
If you have any questions for Adam Leonhardt, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!