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How to Be a Good Role Model for Your Daughters

September 15, 2022 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Father holding child looking out a window

Being a role model for your daughter is one of the most important things you can do as a father. After all, she will likely grow up to be very much like you! But it’s not always as easy to just get on with life and hope that she picks up on the right behaviors and attitudes. Instead, you need to be very intentional about being a role model to her. From what you teach her to how you encourage her future, it all counts. Here are some tips on how to be a good role model for your daughters.

1. Be Present in Her Life

Your daughter needs you to be present in her life, both physically and emotionally. Make sure to set aside quality time each week to spend with her, doing things that she enjoys. This is a great opportunity to bond with her and get to know her on a deeper level. Additionally, be sure to always be there for her when she needs to talk – even if it’s just about her day at school or something that’s bothering her.

2. Be Honest With Her

It’s important that you’re always honest with your daughter, both about the good and the bad. If you make a mistake, own up to it and apologize. This will teach her that it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Additionally, being honest with her will help build trust between the two of you. This can also be very important in strengthening your bond.

3. Be Supportive of Her Dreams and Ambitions

No matter what your daughter wants to do in life, it’s important that you support her dreams and ambitions. Encourage her to chase after her goals and let her know that you believe in her – even if she wants to do something that you may not have envisioned for her future, like the role of James Dolan. Remember, she is the one who will ultimately have to live with the decisions she makes in life, so it’s important that she follows her heart.

4. Be Respectful Towards Others – Especially Women

It’s important that you treat others – particularly women – with respect at all times, both in front of your daughter and when she’s not around. Showing respect for others will teach your daughter to do the same, both in regards to the people she interacts with on a daily basis and herself. Treating others disrespectfully will only serve to damage your relationship with your daughter and cause problems in other areas of her life as well.

Being the Best Male Example, You Can Be

If you follow these tips, you’ll be well on your way toward being a great role model for your daughters! Just remember to always be present in their lives, contribute positively towards their development, and support their dreams and ambitions – no matter what they may be!

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9-11 – Honoring the past. Where were you 21 years ago?

September 11, 2022 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

9-11

9-11 – Honoring the past. Where were you 19 years ago?

I think that most of us can all remember the moments that surrounded the 9-11 tragedy that struck our nation 18 years ago.
I remember where I was… I was in my office at the university that I was working at as a Student Affairs Professional. I believe it was J-Mom who called me and told me to turn on the radio because it looked like a plane had collided with one of the twin towers. Unbeknownst to us was all the malice that was behind the first attack, let alone the subsequent attacks within New York City as well as the Pentagon and in Pennsylvania.
I remember hearing this and calling my colleagues to find a television that we could turn on and we watched in our main office as the tragedy revealed itself. I was numb, dumbstruck. Only once before had I felt this way, and that was when the Space Shuttle Challenger exploded. I simply had never witnessed such hatred, such a loss of life, and later that week we found out how close to home this hit our family.
The Saturday before 9/11  my wife and I celebrated the wedding of a high school friend of J-Mom. The wedding was a wonderful event full of love and laughter. At that event, I was able to meet a friend of the bride named Kelly Ann Booms who sat in front of us during the wedding. She made a comment that she had to get back to Boston on Sunday because she had a business trip that she had to fly out for (to Los Angeles) early on Tuesday morning (9/11). Later that week we found out that Kelly was a passenger on the first plane that hit Tower 1 (Flight 11). We were shocked that someone we just spoke with could be gone in an instant and it brought the national tragedy to a whole new level of meaning. We now felt a part of this tragedy and not as far removed.
The images of the first few hours of 9-11, and the first few days afterward still are burned into my memory and I think they will never leave. For my generation, I think that this event will be the event that truly defines our generation as it may have been Pearl Harbor for my grandparents or the JFK assassination of JFK for my own parents.
So today, 19 years later I take a moment to remember Kelly and the other victims of the 9/11 attacks. May we never again live through such an event.

When my daughters get old enough to understand the significance of this day I will help them understand, but it will not be easy for them to grasp the severity of the events and what it did to the American Spirit that followed. I can only hope that I will be ready for this discussion when the time comes.

So my question for the day?

 

    • What are your memories of this event in our collective history?

 

    • How will you tell your children about this event in the future?

 

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5 Tips for Stay-at-Home Parents Going Back to School

August 25, 2022 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Perhaps you’ve stayed home with your children for several years, but soon, you’d like to get back into the workforce. You’re interested in going back to school or even starting your own business in the future, yet you’re wondering if you’re really ready to take on this commitment. With guidance from Dad of Divas, you can make smart choices for yourself and your family. Plus, these tips will help you with everything from revising your resume to finding the right course for your professional development!

 

Update Your Resume

If you’re enrolling in a degree program with the intent of finding a new job after graduation, you don’t have to wait until your final semester to update your resume – you can start polishing it now. Throughout your studies, you can edit your resume with new skills, projects, and accomplishments. Using a template from a free online resume builder is the easiest way to create a professional resume. You’ll be able to browse a library of templates, pick out the one you like best, and then add your own content and images.

 

Consider Professional Development Programs

What if you have a few years of experience under your belt in your current field, and you’d like to continue working in the same industry? You may not need to complete an entire degree program to earn a higher salary or open up new doors. Instead, consider enrolling in a shorter professional development program to enhance your credentials. For example, if you have some project management experience, you can apply Scrum to help teams successfully coordinate for important projects. To learn all about Scrum techniques and strategies, you can look up how to choose a Scrum master online course. You’ll be able to take a final assessment to demonstrate your skills at the end of the course.

 

Decide on a Major

Not all degrees provide the same return on investment. As an adult student with a family to support, which major is right for you? It’s important to consider your interests, but it’s also good to think about your future earning potential. Aging Greatly states that degrees in technology, healthcare, finance, and marketing can all lead to lucrative opportunities.

 

Find the Right School

Once you’ve settled on a subject that you want to study, you’ll need to decide where to enroll. If you’re a stay-at-home parent with a partner who works outside of the home, you’ll probably need to apply for online programs so that you can study from home. Furthermore, make sure to look for reputable, accredited colleges. Seek out affordable programs that offer scholarships to keep costs low.

 

Time Management

As a stay-at-home parent, you already have your hands full – how are you going to handle childcare, studying, and other endeavors like entrepreneurship? Asking for help is the first step. See if any of your close friends or relatives can lend you a hand, or check your budget to see if you could create some wiggle room to hire a babysitter or house cleaner. Furthermore, Life as Mama recommends making to-do lists by prioritizing key activities, turning down extracurricular commitments, for the time being, tackling your toughest assignments early in the day, and blocking off time to work when your children are sleeping.

If you’re a stay-at-home parent, going back to school can help you expand your skill set and ease back into the workforce. However, investing in a degree program represents a major investment of your time and money, so you’ll want to think about this decision carefully. With these tips, you’ll be able to assess degree programs and professional development courses, update your resume, and manage your schedule wisely!

 

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Dads in the Limelight – Aqeel Ash-Shakoor

July 4, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 876th Dad in the Limelight is Aqeel Ash-Shakoor. I want to thank Aqeel Ash-Shakoor for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Aqeel Ash-Shakoor with all of you.

Aqeel Ash-Shakoor

1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)

Aqeel Ash-Shakoor is a native North Carolinian of Cherokee Indian/West Indian descent. Aqeel is a United States Marine Corps Veteran. Aqeel is a member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc. Relocating to Michigan in 2013, it would be April 2015, after resigning from a job that he received a call for an agency to come audition. Two weeks later, Aqeel booked a principal role/his first acting role in a commercial for The Lee Steinberg Law Firm, “Call Lee!” In May 2015, Aqeel booked his first ever modeling job as he modeled for FSL Clothing line in the Walk Fashion Show. Since then Aqeel has filmed various commercials, feature films and short films, and print work.

Aqeel is highly inspired by God. He makes no excuses for his faith and strength in Jesus Christ. He is also the Pastor of Walking With Christ Ministries, which he and his wife planted in Lansing, MI, in 2014. Also in 2014, Aqeel and his wife were appointed Ambassadors At-Large to the United Nations. He has authored and published two books, “Follow The Leader (Resurrecting Men to Leadership (2010)” and “No More Chains! The Rule 2:22 Principle (2015).” Aqeel is also known as music producer, whose stage name is Phantom Barz @phantombarz

Education:

BS in Business Administration, Saint Paul’s College, Lawrenceville, VA

MS in Criminal Justice, Everest University, Tampa, FL

PhD in Ministry, Canadian International Chaplaincy Association University & Seminary, Houston, TX

 

2) Tell me about your family

Other than God, my inspirations are my wife, Tanesha M. Ash-Shakoor (Western Michigan Thomas Cooley graduate May 2015), their three children, daughter, Jaylah (20 yrs old) Northwood University, and two sons, Jibril (24 yrs old) 2018 UNC Charlotte graduate and Ji’Ri (15 yrs old) High School Sophmore; and my parents who still reside in Murfreesboro, NC. All of our family family members are actors/actresses and models. We have filmed roles in a comedy series titled My StepKidz which is airing now on Sunday nights at 7:30 pm on youtube. Ji’Ri just completed a lead role in a film titled, “Coachable,” featuring NBA celebrity Alan Houston.

Aqeel Ash-Shakoor

3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

My largest challenge in being a father has been to ensure that I properly lead by great example. My wife and I together ensure that we guide our children with God, love and support for them to not limit themselves in anything they engage. Though it may appear to be easy being a father at times, when your children are excelling with no disciplinary, educational, or life problems, you can sometimes miss that your children still suffer from identity crisis and a bit of low self –esteem. There my largest challenge has been learning that each child requires and has very different needs from a father. I grew up partially in a single family home since age 6 yrs old, before my mother remarried. My father, which I’ve never called him my “stepfather,” has never missed a major event in my life, except one which was the day after my sister’s funeral in North Carolina and my wife and I were receiving our Ambassadorial At-large appointments the very next day back here in Lansing, MI. I would say, “That is pretty doggone good as a father!” So, my challenge is to ensure I give my children every aspect of God, guidance, love, respect, and support that my father has given and still gives me to date.

 

4) What advice would you give to other fathers?

I never give advice. What I do say to fathers is, I share my experiences with you in hope that you may find at least one nugget to greater build your capabilities to be a successful father. Do not be afraid to make mistakes. Have an open ear and heart to your children. Allow them to express themselves emotionally and spiritually without judgment. Ensure them that they have your support in all they do in the way they have been trained up. When they believe something stand on it and have a credible reason why they stand for what they believe even if may not be the best way.

This teaches them that they have a voice, they are to be respected for the decision, and it teaches them that although we may make an informed decision with substantial reason, you still may have to face consequences for you actions and choices. I truly believe that takes the limitation off their creativity and ability to excel.  Conduct regularly scheduled family meetings where everyone gets to voice concerns and/or good news. This is our time to discover issues and visit problems, problem solve, and come up with healthy resolution for all parties in the family. Lastly, we pray the session in and pray the session out. Oh I must say this one we personally created and use it often. It has also become a moment revisited for family laughter. The person that has an attitude or has displayed a negative behavior must pray as we all hold hands. Try leading prayer when you’re the one with the attitude problem. What a lesson that is in itself.

 

Eat together with no electronic devices and have meaningful dialogue.

 

Aqeel Ash-Shakoor

5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? 

This is just as simple as it gets. Having a great wife that is also organized. To tell the truth, we are both have OCD personalities. It sounds chaotic, however, we compliment each other. My wife introduced us all to a FAMCAL application that we all are able to log our events and important dates, as well as messages for the rest of the family to be abreast of. We also keep personal calendars on our mobile devices that are linked with the children and some linked between my wife and me. It may even seem like over kill but we still use the stone age, write it on a paper calendar, post the print out on the refrigerator, and we also cover all events during  our regular family meetings.

 

6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

What I have learned interacting with other fathers is everything I have discussed. We talk about “What works and what doesn’t work.” It’s a time of father reflection. It doesn’t mean you do exactly what they do, because all of our families are different, but it does provide some insight that maybe sometimes it’s just “you” that is off-beat with the family. This is when you really grow as a father.

Aqeel Ash-Shakoor

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

From the start, I have always guided our family in taking personal responsibility for that which you are in control of and always handle your business. Teach your families that each person is responsible for uplifting the family name. The family is also your brand. Never do anything that will tarnish your personal character, not the family’s name. What we do personally can and will affect the entire family.

 

8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

My most memorable experiences have been each and everything I’ve seen my children accomplish. I’ve learned not to minimize what things we may consider small. Small accomplishments mature to greater things. Our daughter, Jaylah is our first family Early College graduate from Lansing Community College-Early College Program, as she was an Eastern High School graduate and will graduate from Northwood University, MI next December with two degrees. Our oldest son Jibril is our very first college graduate (UNC Charlotte, NC) and recently has created his own hair product line called “Royal Riches’ and the lead personal trainer at Body By Fitness, in Charlotte, NC.. Our youngest son, Ji’Ri became our first family Valedictorian of our immediate family and extended family when he graduated 8th grade last year. He has maintained all “A’s” since he started school and to date, in his first year of high school, he has completed 9th grade having still maintained all “A’s” throughout the year playing on the Freshman basketball and track teams at Holt high School.

 

Agents: Babes N’ Beaus (Chicago), PCG Talent (Ohio), iGroup & Production Plus (Michigan) Facebook:  Aqeel Ash-Shakoor Instagram:  @Aqeeltheactor Tweeter: @Aqeeltheactor  @BarzPhantom

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Guiding your Kid on the Right Path

June 18, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Guiding your Kid on the Right Path

As parents, we all want the best for our kids. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, children can make the wrong decisions. While some wrong decisions can be made right again, others can steer a person into a downward spiral that can be hard to get out of. When children reach the teenage years, it can also be more difficult to communicate with them. For a parent who is seeing their child going down the wrong path, it can be a difficult time. They might even blame themselves. However, it is never too late to help a child and get them back on the right path, and this guide gives you some advice on how to do it.

Keep your Cool

It might feel frustrating to watch your child hanging out with the wrong crowd, start taking drugs or show bad behavior at school, but if you lose your temper, you are only likely to widen the gap between you. That is not to say that you shouldn’t show your disapproval, but getting angry is not something that solves problems.

Instead of trying to control your child, control your own actions toward them and set clear boundaries. For example, if you know your child is taking drugs, you can control your input by refusing to give them money and explaining the reason as to why. You could also research a local outpatient rehab and insist they seek the treatment they need. That way, you are showing your child that you care for them while maintaining that their behavior is not acceptable.

Create Consequences

If your child makes a bad decision, such as not coming home until late, make sure you enforce some consequences. For instance, you might refuse to take them on a shopping trip you had planned, or not let them use their games console for the weekend. Again, explain your reasons why, and this should encourage them to think things through and make the right choices. Make sure the consequences you set are fair, or it could cause more tension between you and your child.

Build on the Positives

While you and your child may have some difficulties between you, there will be times when you can make each other laugh, or find some joy in a shared moment. Make the most of these times to strengthen the shared bond you have. Positivity is a powerful tool, both for coping with stress as a parent as well as helping keep a good relationship with your child. A positive mindset will have a good impression on your child, helping them to face and overcome their problems.

As parents, we cannot control the choices our children make. However, we can do our best to guide them, so they make the right choices for themselves. Keep communicating and listening to your child while keeping your boundaries firm. It is tough, but you will get through the trying times together.

 

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Dads in the Limelight – Comic & TV Personality Al Jackson

June 13, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 876th Dad in the Limelight is Comic and TV Personality Al Jackson. I want to thank Al Jackson for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Al Jackson with all of you.

Comic and TV Personality Al Jackson is the 876th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

1.Tell me about yourself (as well as how you are in the limelight for my reader’s knowledge).

My name is Al Jackson and I’m a 41-year-old father of 3 from Cleveland, OH. My initial passion was science so I studied biology both in undergrad and graduate school.  I attended graduate school in Florida at Barry University and studied biomedical sciences.  I am most well-known from being a middle school teacher who turned into a nationally touring standup comic and television personality.  My big breakout was getting a Comedy Central half hour specially.  I was the host of BBC’s Officially Amazing for 100 episodes, I was a character on Jim Jeffries Legit, which aired on FX, and I have appeared on Comedy Central doing standup 10 times.  I am now a cohost on the nationally syndicated television show Daily Blast Live, which airs daily all over the country.  I also host a podcast with the famous impressionist Frank Caliendo, I’m a regular guest and co-host of the nationally syndicated Bob & Tom Radio Show and I’m currently on tour with Hannibal Buress.

 

2. Tell me about your family.

My family consists of three children: Abrian (age 12), Elijah (age 10) and Baby Ford (age 4). No matter how old he gets, I will always call him Baby Ford.

Comic and TV Personality Al Jackson is the 876th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

3. What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

I believe my challenges as a father mirror a lot of parent’s challenges in 2019 in that most adults have at least 1 job and some of us have two or three Often times, our jobs take us away from those who we love the most, our children, and I am no different.   Between touring nationally as a standup comic and working in a state away from my children, I’ve had to be creative in ways that I keep in contact with them.  I’m only able to see them on the weekends because my show films in Denver.

One of the largest challenges I’ve had to face as a father has been to learn to not over-parent.  The love that you have for your children is the most special thing that you’ll ever feel or experience, but it also has to be kept in check so you don’t end up becoming a helicopter or smothering parent.  Allowing your child make mistakes, bump their head, succeed and fail on their own is difficult, but you have to understand that it’s all part of them becoming the person they are meant to be.

 

4. What advice would you give to other fathers?

My advice to other fathers is to understand that there is a duality and a balance to being a father. You have to be a mentor, a role model, a disciplinarian and dozens of other roles, but while you’re doing these things, you can’t forget to be their friend, to see the world as they do, laugh with them, and create a special bond.  You must be more than someone who just decides yes or no until they are old enough to make those decisions on their own.  You can’t be so absorbed in the responsibility that you lose sight of the things that make life fun.

Comic and TV Personality Al Jackson is the 876th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

5. How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?

I think for myself, balancing parenthood and outside life is understanding that you’re rarely going to have a large chunk of time that you always imagine you’re going to have. You’ll rarely have the uninterrupted time you desire to be with your children. Those times should be embraced and cherished, but don’t forget to value the moments and not just the hours.  Value those minutes in the car when you can connect with them and ask them a real question. The times when you have 15 minutes and can really listen to them and what’s going on in their world.  It’s important to understand that all time is precious.  Moments come and go and don’t necessarily happen in four or five hour chunks so appreciate all that time you’re given.

 

6. What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

I’ve learned that we’re all flying by the seat of our pants. The fathers who I’ve learned the most from aren’t afraid to tell their kids that they don’t know the answer to something and they realize that there’s an amazing journey to be had by finding out the answer together.

Comic and TV Personality Al Jackson is the 876th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

7. What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

I would share that it’s ok to be afraid from time to time. It’s ok to worry about them, but understand that somebody worried about you in the same manner and you turned out just fine. For a long time with my kids, I constantly hovered over them, literally shielding them from physical harm and shielding them from things that might hurt them emotionally.  But I realized that I was neutering their experiences as young people who need these life moments.  They need the things that can result in joy as well as the things that sometimes result in pain and disappointment.

 

8. What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

There are so many memories it’s hard to pinpoint one, so I’ll speak in generalities because it’s ongoing. With my daughter, it’s been watching her personality develop.  She is a warrior.  She is kind hearted, smart, beautiful and talented.  I’ve been able to watch her personality develop where I’ve seen her start to crack jokes, being sarcastic like her father, I’ve seen her be gentle, even to people who have tried to bully her, and it’s made me stand back in awe and take pride in being able to say I was a part of this human being’s development.

For my middle son Elijah, his intellect and his ability to figure things out shocks me.  He is an expert video game player and just all around analytical kid.  With him, I’ve had to do something that no one ever had to do with me: I’ve had to allow him to be upset with himself if he didn’t get an A on a test.  And trust me, no one ever had to do that with me.  C+ was ok in Al Jackson’s book.

For my youngest son Baby Ford, watching him be as distinct a personality as I’ve ever encountered has been amazing.  He is strong willed, tough as nails, and probably a future NFL full back.  He is completely different from me and his siblings and has definitely rounded out the puzzle of my life.

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Dads in the Limelight – Steve Lemig of Wilderdads

May 23, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 875th Dad in the Limelight is Steve Lemig of Wilderdads. I want to thank Steve Lemig for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Steve Lemig with all of you.

Steve Lemig of Wilderdads is the 875th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is Steve Lemig I work in advertising, am a writer, outdoor athlete, and founder of Wilderdad.com, a leading source of tips and inspiration for outdoor family adventures. I believe the outdoors holds a key to building a happy family. Also, I believe spending time outdoors, whether urban parks, lakeshores, or remote mountains teaches kids confidence, creativity, problem solving, teamwork, self-control, and respect for each other and nature. This is founding idea behind Wilderdad. Motivate dads to get outside with their families and everyone wins.
 
I had a bizarre childhood. My parents divorced early on and I grew up attending churches of spiritual cults and participating in political activism. At one point, I lived in a van in a urine-soaked alley. That was for most of sixth grade. We moved nine or ten times and I went to six different schools before graduating high school. It was stressful and the only place I found peace was in the outdoors. So, I spent most of my childhood outside running trails, fishing, mountain biking, and rock climbing. Being active outdoors helped me stay balanced and express my angst in a positive way.

2) Tell me about your family
I live in Denver, Colorado, with my wife and nine-year-old daughter. My wife and I started dating 20 years ago and have been married 14 years. She’s a backpacker having guided many backpacking trips with high school kids from the Denver area. She also rafted the Grand Canyon almost 20 years ago and it’s still a highlight of her outdoor career. My daughter is an amazing little human. She loves science, art, and especially birds and plants. Ask her what she wants to be and she says she’s ALREADY an ornithologist (expert in birds), a botanist (expert in plants), and she is interested in also becoming a paleobotantist (expert in plant fossils). 
 
She’s super athletic–loves to bike, rock climb, fish, hike and camp with us. Believe it or not, she started running with me when she was just 18 months old. I started running with her in a stroller when she was about 4 months old. She was so small I’d secure her into the stroller with a half dozen rolled beach towels all around her. And I think by the time she reached a year and a half she just was fed up sitting in the stroller with her dad pushing her around. So, she hopped out one day and just started running alongside me. She made it almost half a mile that day.

3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Not a whole lot of guidance. I come from a long line of fathers (and a stepfather) who had no idea what they were doing. And they passed along the tradition to me. I felt like I started from scratch. The one benefit of having father figures in my life who didn’t know what they were doing was that I learned what NOT to do.

4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Relax. Be Present. Have Fun. Half of parenting is just showing up, being there for your kids, and helping them through whatever the problem du jour is. Kids who have involved dads are 75% less likely to have a teen birth, 80% less likely to spend time in jail, and 43% more likely to earn A’s in school. And the more fun you can have with your kids, the more they’ll respect and listen to you. You don’t need to be a mean SOB to get your kids to behave.
Oh, and GET OUTSIDE! Spending time outside with your kids and encouraging them to play outdoors is so good for their mental and physical development.

5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
It’s hard. I have so many projects going on at one time that it can get really messy. Currently, I work a full-time job, I drop off and pick up my daughter from school half the week, I help with homework, cook meals, do house maintenance, and run a blog, am writing a book, and try to workout five days a week. It doesn’t always happen. But, one thing I have going for me is that I worked really hard for years to be able to work from home full-time. It cuts out five or more hours of commute time and I’m able to knock out a few chores here and there during the day that would normally get pushed to the weekends.
 
Also, my wife and I used to live in California and moved to Colorado to be closer to family when our daughter was born. So, we have a strong network of family and friends who help us–and we help them. Community is key!

6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
No one has it easy! There’s no perfect family. No perfect formula for fatherhood. Life’s messy. Dads need each other. We need dad support groups, whether it’s just a group of good friends or an actual local support group of dads.

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
My most memorable experiences with my family have been traveling or spending time outdoors. Skiing knee deep powder in the Rocky Mountains, hiking and picking huckleberries along the Continental Divide, searching for sea glass along the beaches of San Diego, scrambling on boulders in Joshua Tree National Park, watching moose stroll by while camping outside Rabbit Ears Pass, standing in the middle of the Arkansas River fly fishing with my daughter. These are the moments when all the stresses of life melt away and I feel the strongest connection with my wife and my daughter. I think they feel it too. I can tell because of the great big smiles on their faces when we’re outside together.

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Dads in the Limelight – James Fouche

May 16, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

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Our 874th Dad in the Limelight is James Fouche. I want to thank James Fouche for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing James Fouche with all of you.

James Fouche is the 874th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
I’m an author, freelance writer/blogger and public speaker. I just returned to writing to finish my third novel. This after a four-year babymaking hiatus. We had three nuggets in three years, which will bring your world to halt. I write about wine, travel and parenting, for multiple media formats across all social media platforms, from Australia to South Africa. I write 24 hours a day, which makes being a silly daddy a very challenging, yet rewarding, exercise.
2) Tell me about your family
For seven years we struggled to conceive. After a short and tense operation, we were able to do the deed. Then baby number one arrived. Since we were on the older side of parenting, we decided to have number two the following year. However, baby number three was an unplanned, fantastic five minutes on the couch while the other two were asleep. Now we have two girls, the first and the last, and a boy in the middle.
James Fouche is the 874th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Three kids in three years, means two tantrum toddlers and a baby with separation anxiety. The biggest problem we face is not having face-time as a couple. At times I really miss my wife – and she is standing right in front of me. But there is a baby at her feet screaming for milk, a girl throwing a tantrum in the living room and a boy tugging at my pants to show me something outside. We film and post little YouTube clips to remind ourselves of the good times hidden inside the chaos.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Appreciate the struggle. Soon it is all over. Remember all the firsts, because they soon become the lasts. The first nappy, the first step, the first giggle, the first time they fall asleep in your arms. Which becomes the last pack of nappies you bought, the last time you were able to pick up your child, the last time they rode horsey on your back, or the last time you gave your little girl butterfly kissies all over. It seems like a blur, but in the blur is the joy.
James Fouche is the 874th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
I still haven’t been able to balance parenthood and work. I’m sure this is impossible. Or maybe I’m doing something wrong. You learn to juggle both. I’m of the radical thought that men can multitask, too. Especially during those first four foundation years. You don’t have a choice.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
– Someone always has it worse than you, so stop moaning.
– Divorce is a killer; avoid it like the plague.
– You have a soul, and without selfcare your soul becomes a beastly thing.
– Take care of yourself and don’t allow people to steal your family time.
James Fouche is the 874th dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Don’t be too hard on yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. You are doing a good job.
James’ social links are below:
Website: http://jamesfouche.com
Facebook: @JamesFoucheWrites
Instagram: @jamesfouchewrites
Twitter: @james_fouche
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/jamesfouche49

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Dads in the Limelight – Marlon Gutierrez of Being Papa

May 9, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 873rd Dad in the Limelight is Marlon Gutierrez from the website Being Papa. I want to thank Marlon Gutierrez for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Marlon Gutierrez with all of you.

Marlon Gutierrez of Being Papa is the 873rd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)

My name is Marlon Gutierrez. I’m the dad to a really smart & funny 2-year-old who makes me gleem with joy. As far as the spotlight goes I’m usually seen in marketing conferences in my career as a growth marketer. More important to me though is the work I’ve been doing as the organizer of the Orlando City Dads Group and instagramming & blogging about my adventures as a dad to my daughter through Being Papa.

 

2) Tell me about your family

I’m married to one incredible woman who owns and manages a real estate management company from our home. She’s the type that reads right through my BS and knows how to pull me back when I go down a black hole stressing about things that don’t really matter. Together we parent our daughter, who at two years of age can manipulate me into what she wants me to do plainly because she’s the most hilarious kid I have ever encountered. She’s the daughter I never knew I needed so much in my life and I really can’t function without her around. She’s spunky and brave– loves scary Halloween decor, reptiles and dinosaurs, and while we live in Orlando, the literal home to Disney Princesses, the one princess she got a fascination towards so far has been Fiona from the Shrek series– and only in ogre form!! She’s also incredibly sweet, loves to sing and dance, and loves going shopping for clothes!! As a family we’re always out on the weekends, travel often and spend most of our days together.

Marlon Gutierrez of Being Papa is the 873rd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

So far, the biggest challenge that I’ve had while being a father was realizing that there were many elements from my own upbringing that I didn’t want to pass down. I recall my childhood being extremely positive and happy for me but there were a lot of little elements that passed down from being raised in a more traditional environment that led to toxic behavior in my late teens and early twenties. Further, I’ve had to acknowledge that a lot of my culture is very heavy with toxic masculinity and I’ve had to really learn how to challenge what was wired to me and become aware of feminism, gender issues, and equality. Realizing I was part of a large problem was extremely hard for me, but my daughter has been a huge motivator for me to get educated through all the resources available.

 

4) What advice would you give to other fathers?

This one would particularly be for working fathers. Make the shift in your mindset that your role as a provider means so much more than providing financially. In fact, we have it all wrong. The second you learn that role is to provide time for your family, everything starts aligning into place. Remember that your kid would rather be living in a box and get to have playtime with you than in a house without getting a chance to ever see you.

Marlon Gutierrez of Being Papa is the 873rd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?

More and more, I’ve learned to start integrating parenthood and outside life as opposed to trying to balance them. We travel often as a family to take advantage of the time we have with our daughter before she spends her days in school. We also both work-from-home, so we are able to be present throughout the day for her while also working and getting stuff done. Sometimes there are better days than others, of course, but between both of us, we make it work. We also think it’s important for us to have the chance to “do us”. My wife and I will alternate if I just need some time to for self-care. (Usually consists of a dinner with a friend or sitting out to read a good book).

 

6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

I’ve learned that a dad’s superpower really comes in the form of play. We’re not afraid to get on the playgrounds with them or take them out to the toy store and get just as excited about a toy they’ve never seen before. I live vicariously through my daughter’s excitement in play, and given that children learn very well through playtime, I think playing with our kids is time very well spent.

Marlon Gutierrez of Being Papa is the 873rd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

I used to very much align my identity with that of my job title and career. Being a father has taught me that I’m so much more than that: that in reality, my job is just the paycheck that allows me to do what I need to. The second my job makes me unhappy or starts to take away from my family in an unreasonable manner, I’ve become very quick to be able to quit and look for another. So far, it hasn’t impacted my career growth and it’s made me continuously improve job environments for the better.

 

8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

It still has to be the moment my daughter was born. I went through Bradley classes with my wife and I very much went deep into the information. My wife had a natural birth and I was able to pull my daughter out and be the first person who ever held her. The memory of seeing her face and feeling her slippery tiny body is so incredibly vivid and without a doubt always fills my eyes up with tears. It was the moment my life changed for the better.

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Dads in the Limelight – Karl Staib of Bring Gratitude

May 2, 2019 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 872nd Dad in the Limelight is Karl Staib of Bring Gratitude. I want to thank Karl Staib for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Karl Staib with all of you.

Karl Staib of Work Happy Now is the 872nd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is Karl Staib and I’m a father of two boys. I’m the author of Bring Gratitude: Feel Joyful Again with Bitesized Mindset Practices, and it’s pushed me into the limelight. My hope is that more fathers practice gratitude with their children. Being grateful for them and showing them how to be grateful for all the blessings they have in their lives.

Karl Staib of Work Happy Now is the 872nd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!

2) Tell me about your family
I’ve been married to my amazing wife of 12 years. We have two boys, ages 9 and 4. They are amazing and frustrating. Just last week I told my oldest to go and use the bathroom before we left for our camping trip. After 5 minutes I come back in and he is brushing his teeth. I asked him why he was brushing his teeth and he said that’s what he was supposed to do. I told him to finish up. Then when he got to the garage to put his shoes on he said he needed to go to the bathroom. big sigh

I told him to go and use the bathroom and then we have to go. This one tested my patience greatly.

I love my family, but there are always challenges. Every father must understand and appreciate all aspect of a family.
Karl Staib of Work Happy Now is the 872nd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
I think it’s health scares. My youngest son had blood work because he has been throwing up every so often in the middle of the night. The doctor said he might have liver issues. We took him general practitioner and they took blood to check his organs. They said he might be having liver issues. We were referred to a gastroenterologist pediatric specialist and he was diagnosed with Cyclical Vomiting Syndrome, which is brought on by a food allergy. We are now in the process of figuring what he is allergic to so he doesn’t throw up in the middle of the night anymore.

I was just so grateful for the amazing doctors that we have and that he didn’t have any liver issues. Health scares are what helps me remember how lucky I am to have a healthy family.
Karl Staib of Work Happy Now is the 872nd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
The two greatest gifts you can give your kids are to listen and appreciate them.

When you listen to them they feel loved. I mean truly listening with asking good questions. Questions that show that you care about what they are saying.

The second gift is showing and telling them that you appreciate them. You aren’t perfect and they aren’t either, but if you show them appreciation on a regular basis that will help them build confidence.
Karl Staib of Work Happy Now is the 872nd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
I love to write and go for walks while listening to podcasts and I have a full time career, so my time is limited. I’ve found that my phone is my greatest tool. I write using Google Docs when I have 15 minutes of time. Those 15 minutes here or there usually add up to an hour to an hour and a half of writing a day. I can usually get around 1,000 words each day. My last book was 40,000 words, so I can write a rough draft in approximately 40 days.

I share this with you because it’s about priorities. I make time for my family, work and writing. Everything else can wait until the next day.
Karl Staib of Work Happy Now is the 872nd dad to be spotlighted in the Dads in the Limelight Series. Come and learn from this great dad!
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
Fathers have to support each other. We are in a transitory time. We are going from old school way of raising kids to the new school. Today’s generation of fathers are much more empathetic than my father’s generation. And we still have so much room to improve. We are adjusting with the times. We have more information that we are using to help raise smarter, healthier and resilient kids. That’s why we need each other. We need to share ideas of how to raise smart, caring and resilient kids, so our community becomes stronger.

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
When I started keeping a gratitude journal it was mostly to help my negative mindset. Little did I realize that it would help me become a better father. I’m more patient. Just last week when my son was throwing a fit because he didn’t want to put on his shoes. I found a tiny glimmer of gratitude by thinking someday I’ll miss this because I knew I would.

It was this thought that stopped me from escalating the situation and yelling at him to put on his shoes. I took a different tactic. I told him that I could put my shoes on before him. That’s all he needed to hear. He ran over to his shoes, threw them on, and ran to the car. It was one of my biggest wins as a father because I saw how far I’ve come.

What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

Being lucky enough to hug and play with my kids. I get busy, but I know my role as a father is to make them laugh, be silly, set guidelines, and make sure they are loved. I think playing with them is the best way to do all of those things.

If you are interested, join Karl’s free 30-Day Bring Gratitude Challenge running May 1st thru 30th. It’ll help strengthen your mindset. Come join us and you’ll get email updates and a private Facebook group. If you have any questions, I’ll be available 7 days a week during this time. My goal is to get the smartest and most caring people together to create an amazing community, so we can help each other learn from our mistakes and build a life that we love.

If you have any questions for Karl Staib, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!

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