Our 432nd Dad in the Limelight is Rey Brown. I want to thank Rey for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
Hey I am Rey Brown, a husband, father, and podcaster. I am 27 years old and I want to do my part to help keep families together. As I look around at many people my age and people in general; the family dynamic is broken. A family of my own is all I ever wanted when growing up and now that I have that I am going to do the absolute best job that I can possibly do.
I host a five day a week podcast (on-demand internet radio show) titled “The I Like Family Show” where I interview a different married couple, spouse, parent, or divorcee and ask them about the struggles of family life and how they overcame them. Its a show full of insight into what works to improve marriage, parenting, and family life in general.
It can be found at www.ilikefamily.com/podcast
2) Tell me about your family
We have a growing family of three; my wife is seven months pregnant. Most of all, the Brown family just enjoy spending time together, whether we are on a bike ride, at the park, at the dinner table, or laying in bed watch a movie. We genuinely enjoy each others company.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
The largest challenge for me as a father has been in the beginning thinking that my family’s happiness was tied to the amount of things we accumulate. I worked like crazy to give my family everything their heart desired, when all along their hearts only desired to have me by their side. So now I am in the process of re-engineering our lives so that we are location independent and are able to spend every waking minute together if we want (unless we are tired of seeing each other).
Also I’ll add this in, one of the lowest feelings for me as a father is having to ask another person (boss at work) can I have the day off to take my daughter to gymnastics. Now think about that, this is MY family and I have to ask another man can I spend time with my family.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
My advice to other fathers would be to realize you are the most important piece of your family. Your family is only going to go as far as you take them. Work at family life daily; treat your wife as if she is the most precious thing on Earth and she will act like it. Constantly tell your children that they were made to do great things; have that expectation of them and they will surely be great.
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
I keep a very tight schedule. I have started to block off family time in my schedule. I recently asked my wife “what is your ideal work day for me”. I allowed her to determine the hours I work and the hours I am 100% present with family.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
That our family’s just want our love, presence, and protection. All of the material things are nice to have, but it means nothing if I am not there with them to enjoy it. Also, a mentor of mine told me that the most important job for me as a father is to teach my daughter everything I know by the time she is an adult.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
I have learned more about myself from my daughter then she has probably learned as a result of my parenting. Also my daughter tends to do better when I am around, especially in gymnastics, when I am there watching her she listens to her teacher more and concentrates better
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
The memorable is every night when we read to my daughter, and also all three of us (yes including me) tearing up at the end of the Disney movie Brave.
If you have any questions for Rey, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!