Our 453rd Dad in the Limelight is Ray Gruenfelder. I want to thank Ray for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
My name is Ray Gruenfelder and I am a dad blogger who decided to take a different twist on my blog than others out there. I am no longer a new daddy but rather a father of an 8 year old daughter and a 12 year old son so I decided to take a twist of “Dad/Guy” blog. My blog is a site where a dad doesn’t have to give up the things he enjoys because he is a dad. He can still enjoy guy things. So I created a blog of dad posts as well as Guy Stuff like Tech, sports, food/drinks and more. I am also a diehard NY Mets fan (@thecrazymetsfan on twitter) and can be found many times near the Shea Bridge at Mets home games.
I got married to my high school sweetheart at the age of 24. 16 years later we have a beautiful 8 year old daughter (Alexa) and a great 12 year old son (Anthony). My daughter is very much into dance and has been going to a dance studio for 4-5 years. My son has been involved in basketball for 7-8 years now. I also enjoy co-coaching my sons CYO basketball team.
As a parent of any child every day is filled with new challenges, they just change as your child gets older and goes through their own stages of life. That is not to say that challenges are a bad thing. Challenges make you work and think harder as a person on ways to make life better for your family. The challenge I have faced is learning how to communicate with my kids without getting frustrated. It is a work in progress.
The best advice that I would give to other fathers is not to be afraid to think that you need to have all the answers. Fatherhood just like childhood is a learning and growing experience. There is no dad (or mom) out there that automatically is given a PhD on parenting when your child is born. You feed off your kids and learn from them as much as they learn from you. The way you react and interact with one child may not be (and most likely, will not be) the same. Each child should be treated as an individual and therefore a different approach may very well be needed. That being said, spend as much time and be as involved in all aspects of your kids’ lives.
Balancing parenthood can be tricky especially with kids who are very active in different things. Between practices, games, rehearsals, recitals, running here, running there and running everywhere you are bound to go crazy at times. Then you throw in work, parties, chores and everything else, it can get overwhelming. Thanks to technology we have been able to combine all our activities into one neat calendar. Between that and teamwork, we make it happen!
Every day may not be perfect and you may not do things the way you would have liked one day but fatherhood is a long term initiative. You can always work to make tomorrow better than today.
Fatherhood is a blessing. You may not always see it, especially in the everyday running around that most families do but when you sit at the dinner table together, gathered around watching a movie or anything else that you share together for that matter, just look over at your family, and you will see it clearly. Cherish every moment you have with your kids. They grow up way too fast.
That is a difficult one to answer. New memorable moments happen all the time. Sometimes it is a moment I share with one child and sometimes it is a moment that the whole family takes part in. to pick just one would be unfair to all the other memorable experiences.
If you have any questions for Ray, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!