Our 469th Dad in the Limelight is Tim Wells. I want to thank Tim for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
I like to tell people that I’m a blogger, gamer, geek, father of four, and husband, though not necessarily in that order.
I’m the creator and primary blogger at Review Dad. I’m pretty active on social media, as well.
2) Tell me about your family
I’m married to a much more accomplished blogger, Dawn, aka BloggingMomof4. We have four children, including a set of fraternal twins.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Our youngest daughter was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease when she was four. There were quite a few hospital stays during those first few years after being diagnosed.
As a parent, it’s hard to see your kids suffer and not be able to do anything about it. Especially when they’re too young to really understand why they’re being poked and prodded by strangers.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
The time you put into your kids now will pay dividends the rest of their lives. Whether it’s being the disciplinarian, or tag-teaming with your spouse to model a healthy relationship, or just being a goofball that makes your kids laugh, these are the things your kids will remember and value.
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
Wait… there’s a balance?
Honestly, it’s something I never expect to fully master. As my kids get older, there seem to be more and more activities. The problem is that there’s never a shortage of things I want to do with my free time, either.
Fortunately for my kids, they have a pretty amazing and selfless mom. We may be our kids’ role models, but my wife is mine. She helps me find that balance. Whether I want to or not. 😉
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
I’ve learned that there are a lot of different kinds of fathers out there. Some are terrible, some are way better than I. But you can learn something from all of them, even if it’s not what to do.
As a father, you have plenty of chances to learn from your own mistakes. But you shouldn’t pass up the chance to learn from others, too.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Being a father is defining. I can’t imagine not having that title. In the end, my children are my life’s work. Everything else is just… everything else.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
One of the wonderful things about being a father is that for every bad memory (like hospital stays), there are a dozen great ones. For me, it’s the spontaneous moments of joy that I remember most. Like the time my family was eating pumpkin pie and we all ended up smashing our faces into it. It’s silly, yes, but I will never forget the sound of my daughter’s laughter. It still makes me smile, years later.
If you have any questions for Tim, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!