Our 419th Dad in the Limelight is Pat Jacobs. I want to thank Pat for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
I am a stay-at-home dad and during naptime I co-manage the Just a Dad 247 blog. I live in the Chicago area, I can roll a mean burrito and The Beatles are the soundtrack of my life.
2) Tell me about your family
My wife is a very accomplished business woman. She’s amazing with Excel and operating two monitors at the same time. My extremely important, highanking and very influential role in the burrito industry took up a majority of my time. Lots of late phone calls, emails and texts. When our baby was born, we wanted nothing to stand in the way of our new family and we decided that I would stay-at-home with the baby. Our son is almost 1 year old and loves music. He’s been a Beatles fan since the second trimester.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Sacrifice. Every relationship takes a certain amount of sacrifice. It’s the give and take that makes a relationship strong. When I became a stay-at-home dad, I had a list of things that I thought I would accomplish personally and around the house. I learned very quickly that I had to sacrifice 98% of that and focus on the baby. It was a challenge to realize it, but it was the best sacrifice I ever made.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Treasure every moment. I am beyond lucky and grateful to spend as much time with my boy as I do. Even the times that I get frustrated, I remember how amazing this little guy is and tell myself to treasure this moment of frustration. Every single moment can and should be treasured. (Excuse me, I need to go take a picture of my boy sleeping)
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
As a stay-at-home dad, I realized quickly that I needed adult interaction. It’s important to get outside, find play groups, interact in social media groups and to talk with people beyond goofy expressions and peek-a-boos. The most important balance is knowing when to tune in and turn off so that I am engaging with my son.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
I’m amazed by dads. I have learned that it’s great to be the primary caregiver and that it’s ok to make mistakes. Dads have taught me to learn from those mistakes and to not be shy from reaching out and asking questions. Within the Dad Blogger community, I have learned to be more creative, take risks and to scream and shout about how much I love being a parent.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
The mind plays tricks on you. The overwhelming panic that goes through my head at times… The first time I left him alone at the gym, the first time he got a fever, when he bumps his head, I could go on and on. These experiences and feelings drive me crazy and end up ultimately being a very funny memory and story for when my wife gets home.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
The most memorable experiences are watching my son learn and recognize things; When he began mimicking his grandfather doing a funny head lean, or raising his arms up when we say, “How big are you,” and even walking towards the bathroom when we say, “Wanna take a bath?” Experiencing him “getting it” is something I will never forget. And I’ll probably end up like my father… “I remember when you used to…” Oh boy. He’s gonna love that.
If you have any questions for Pat, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!