Our 540th Dad in the Limelight is Mike Kresch, President of Kresch and Partners. I want to thank Mike Kresch for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Mike Kresch with all of you.
First and foremost I’m a husband/father. Second, I’m the President of an up-and-coming Marketing Services and Solutions company, President of Kresch and Partners based out of Millburn, NJ. And finally, I’m an aspiring writer, about %80 done with my debut novel – and struggling to finish.
I’m a passionate New York sports fan (Giants, Knicks, Mets, Rangers) who is easily distracted by ESPN, sports talk radio.
2) Tell me about your family
My wife Stephanie is my hero. She juggles work, childcare, and an intense workout regimen like a champion, and rarely misses a beat.
I have two children: Sam, age 11, and Ruby, age 8. I love everything about them, and cherish the time I get to spend with them.
And last, but not least, we have three pets: our dog Lacey (2) and our cats Chelsea and Murray (both 10). I’ll leave it at this – thanks to them, there’s really never a dull moment at the Kresch household.
Even though I’m not a competitive person, I have this innate tendency to attempt to mold my kids into a “better” version of who I was as their age, which is a completely ridiculous inclination. I have to remind myself to let them be true to themselves, and grow into the people that they are meant to be, vs. what I might think they should be.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Three things to live by:
- Appreciate the here and now! When you’re with your kids, don’t let your mind wander off to tomorrow’s meeting, or any other peripheral issue. There’s always time later to stress over something.
- Don’t be afraid or too proud to apologize to your kids when you make a mistake, accidentally hurt their feelings.
- Never forget to kiss your child good night. Ideally, it’s the last thing they experience before falling asleep.
I now work very close to home, which enables me to have more meals with the kids. If I work on the weekends, I try to slot it in around times where the kids are otherwise occupied. I’m home often enough so that the kids get their fair share of time with me, but away enough so that my presence isn’t always taken for granted.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that there’s no set formula for being a good father. Over the years I’ve interacted with all different types, with philosophies that couldn’t be more divergent. My takeaway is that successful fatherhood can be found in many different approaches. I think it’s up to us individually to find out what works best within our own little fiefdoms, and apply it in a way that comes naturally. And in doing so, making sure not to pass judgment on other styles that might be different from our own.
It (fatherhood) has been the most challenging and rewarding experience of my life. I consistently work at becoming better at it. I think that’s the key: it’s like anything else, once you are complacent, and don’t work hard at something, your skills erode. I am always open to suggestion, willing to put my ego aside if it helps me be a better father.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
Family vacations have been amazing, and spontaneous bouts of laughter at the dinner table are priceless. The day I brought our dog Lacey home was as memorable a single day as I can remember, and an incredibly happy one at that.
If you have any questions for Mike Kresch, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!