Dads in the Limelight ( #limelightdads ) – Devon Bandison ( @nowlegacy ) #dadchat

I have a 17 year old daughter (going into her senior year of High School), a twelve year old son (an avid basketball player), and a 4 year old son (who is filled with awesomeness)

 

Not sure I would label them challenges. But each day I am faced with a new opportunity to try be a power of example and instill values like love, honesty, integrity, purpose, service, family and friendship in my children.

 

To understand the gift of love and being present. Not just physically present, but allowing yourself to be present and connected to your children socially and emotionally. I think one of the best things I can do as a father is believe in my children, encourage them to dream and support their goals in life. Also, it is important for fathers to take the time to look at how they were fathered growing up. Often times, the fathers I work with are amazed at how much their upbringing impacts the way they parent (both positively and negatively). Once you understand this, you can make the necessary changes.

This is a continuous area of evaluation and adjustment.  I don’t believe that these necessarily have to be competing priorities. You can spend the time necessary to be successful as a father and in your career with the right tools, motivation and perspective.

That they want to be great fathers but often times don’t want to share their fears about being a good father.  Most men I work with have been conditioned not to show vulnerability or ask for help.  I think blogs like Dadsofivas and others that provide resources and a community for fathers is important.

 

It can be difficult at times but there is nothing more rewarding and soul satisfying. It is my responsibility to show my children that no matter what life presents, the choice to be happy, caring and giving is up to you. One of my favorite fatherhood quotes “Fatherhood, a son’s first hero; a daughters first love.”

There has been so many memorable experiences over the years and too many to fit in this interview, but here are a few:

1. Watching my 4 year old son be born pre-mature (3 pds, 12 ounces), and growing into the happy health, (and big) child he is today.  
2. Going on college tours with my 16 year old daughter and seeing her develop into such a beautiful, respectful and caring person
3. Watching my 12 year old son step up and be determined to be the best big brother in the world. The way he treats his brother is the most unbelievable thing to watch.  He shows love, empathy, and patience that often teaches me a thing or two. 

In addition to that, the other memorable experiences come when my daughter tells me that guys are going to have a tough time when she dates because of the example I show her. The time we spend laughing and talking about life are priceless.

When me and my 12 year old recently went to the NBA Draft and he turned to me and said “Dad, this was the greatest day of my life”

When my 4 year old tells me “Daddy I love you”

I am a lucky man and proud father!