Our 329th Dad in the Limelight is Stu Friedman. I want to thank Stu for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
Hi Dad of Divas readers, I am Stu Friedman. I am Co-Founder of Dads In The Game (www.dadsinthegame.com). Co-Founder Cliff John and I have built our site as a place where dads, moms, kids, and others can share positive stories about Dads. We share a wide assortment of content on our site, including product reviews, personal stories, and quotes. We also run a monthly Most Valuable Dad Competition, the MVD.
When I am not working on Dads In The Game, I help businesses and individuals with their insurance needs, dabble in health policy, and spend time with my family.
2) Tell me about your family
Simply, my family is the most important thing in my life. I am married to Lauren (absolutely amazing woman) and am the proud father of a daughter, Simone. I am fortunate enough to have a large extended family with great parents, siblings, in-laws, cousins, aunts, uncles, and even a grandparent. I have a great family!
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
The largest challenge that I have faced being a father is balancing my desire to do things personally with the needs of my immediate family, Lauren and Simone. You can read as many baby books as you want, but nothing really prepares you to be a father. Upon Simone’s birth I was both scared and excited. I had no idea what I was doing. I found myself wanting to do things and then thinking, “Simone…. What am I going to do with Simone?” It was very confusing for a while, but eventually Lauren and I established a routine that allowed us both to enjoy activities together without Simone, together with Simone, alone with Simone, and alone. It really helped to have extended family and friends with kids to provide advice on how to handle a variety of situations.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Hahahahaha – Clearly, I would tell all fathers to read all of the blog posts at www.dadsinthegame.com. Seriously, I would tell dads to trust their instincts and to relax. All of us have the ability to be great fathers. There is no right way to do things. Just be involved and work with your spouse. Communicate, communicate, and communicate some more!
Seeing that you (or your position) are in the limelight, how have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? If you are currently not in the limelight per se, please still answer this in regards to how you balance parenthood and outside life.
As with some of my predecessor limelight dads, I think for me it comes down to knowing my values and priorities. For me, my family comes first. Everything else comes after my family. Knowing that, it is easy to balance parenthood with my outside life.
5) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
For me, the most influential fathers in my life have been my own father and both of my grandfathers. All three were shirt off my back fathers who put family first and all taught me to value family over everything else.
6) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Fatherhood is definitely not easy. Initial reactions are not always the best. There are definitely times when you want to rip your hair out. Luckily, I am bald and this forced me to find another method of dealing with difficult situations, the Stu Friedman Parenting Problem-Solving Method:
- I make sure that Simone is away from any danger;
- Think of something that makes me calm (e.g., beach in Aruba) ;
- Talk it over with Lauren;
- Seek any advice from my parents or Laurens parents;
- Create a plan.
7) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
By far, my most memorable experience was being at the hospital the day Simone arrived.
If you have any questions for Stu, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!