Dads in the Limelight
Our 348th Dad in the Limelight is Gil Gutierrez, , contestant on the new TNT Show 72 Hours which airs on Fridays at 10:15 PM EST. I want to thank Gil for being a part of the Dads in the Limelight series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight)
I am a very energetic person that loves to compete. I love playing with my kids and hanging out with the family. I used to be all about going out with the friends, I’ve grown up fast. There are no friends in life just family.
2) Tell me about your family
They are my everything; they are the real reason why I breathe, and the comfort for when I sleep. I have two beautiful kids, Madison 3yrs and Mathew 8yrs. As much as a great dad I want to be, I feel more like a referee with them than anything else. Yeah they fight and argue a lot, but who doesn’t! But in the end they love each other. My fiancée (Mirna Lugo) is a great person, she took me from being a no body and made me the man that I am today. It’s because of her that I am as successful so far and I appreciate the heck out of her!!!!
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
The biggest challenge has to be providing for the family. I always wanted to give my kids all of what I did not have when I was young. My childhood was rough and I don’t want them to experience what I went through. Yeah I spoil them, but I should their kids!! Everything I do is for them and it’s hard to give them everything when you can’t afford it most of the time. Being the man of the house means that you are the provider, the FOUNDATION! I want my family to always come to me with their problems and I am the shoulder they can rely on.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Give them hugs and kisses every day. Especially the little girls! Lol. If you don’t show them physical love throughout their entire life they are going to find another man sooner than expected that is going to take your place. Be the most important man in their lives. Have a bond with your kids and listen to what they have to say. You would be surprised to hear the words that come out of their mouths! Take them out and spend some personal time with them, when they grow into their teens, you’re not going to have that time, and you are going to regret it.
5) Seeing that you are in the limelight, how have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
There has not been a balance, it’s only really when you have the time. When I became a parent my whole life changed. It wasn’t about me anymore. I used to play golf every day, now I am considered the monthly warrior lol. I enjoy this change anyways, I will choose to hang out with my kids more than any friend I have ever had.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
Many of them consider themselves as the “Top Dad”. In order to consider yourself as one you need to prove it. I’ve learned that if you want your kids to grow up successful you need teach them not by only words, but by example. My father told me to be somebody, don’t be like me, be better and make me proud. I want to tell my kids, this is what I have accomplished, take your desired path and surpass me; I know you can do it.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Live each day as if it was your last. Cherish those who look up to you and lead by example. Spend as much time with your family as possible. Be the backbone of the family tree, and make sure your kids love and respect you, not hate and forget you.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
Seeing my children grow and accomplish things that I didn’t when I was their age. Every parent wants their kids to surpass them. My son didn’t know how to ride the bike he learned at 6 yrs. It took him to more than two days to do tricks. Memorable experiences? Every day is an experience and every second is memorable. Some consider me a dork when I talk about my kids. I tell someone a story and they laugh, I love every action they do, good or bad. That’s what separates the men from the fathers.
If you have any questions for Gil, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!