Our 325th Dad in the Limelight is George Teh. I want to thank George for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is George Teh. I am 31 years old, currently finishing up school, recently started my blog (theitdad.net), and serving God at church in the music/ preaching ministry. I don’t really have a specific label for what I do, because it’s all over the place! I’m busy but happy, I love my life.
2) Tell me about your family
My wife, Daisy (theitmom.com) and I have been married for over 5 years and we currently live in Las Vegas, NV, in the city of Henderson to be exact. We have 4 children; Noah(13), Jasmine(11), Jude(4), Juliana(3). (boy, girl, boy, girl)
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Being a provider was my biggest challenge. It started out when my wife and I started our relationship. Being a new step dad to two children, and not having any experience with family whatsoever. We went through a very bad financial difficulty that took us to the darkest time of our lives, borderline homeless. It was not just in finances, but emotionally, mentally, in our relationships with family, and spiritually. At the time, it was difficult to find work. We couldn’t pay rent, electricity, food and even being able to buy water to drink was a struggle. The situation seemed unreal. Many nights I sat in my car praying about what to do, and not seeing an answer. We then found out my wife was pregnant, and not much later, got evicted and had to move out Christmas night into a friend’s one bedroom apartment. The struggle went on for almost a year and we couldn’t find any solutions. So many other things went of after that. As difficult as this all was though, I don’t regret any of it, because it was this challenge that brought me closer to God, developed my faith, and allowed me to be humble. It was these rough times, I believe that I was able to learn to become a better father, a better man, and provider. Once we decided to get married, things started to get better, immediately! We got a new home, new jobs and our relationships with family and friends were rebuilt. We were blessed with so much and things picked up. Until today, this is what reminds me to always be grateful and never take blessings, family, and opportunities for granted.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Have faith and hold on to it, it will keep the family strong through tough times. Being a father is not about giving up a lot but gaining a lot more. Fatherhood is a big responsibility but the joy you receive is a reward you can’t put a price on.
5) Seeing that you (or your position) are in the limelight, how have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? If you are currently not in the limelight per se, please still answer this in regards to how you balance parenthood and outside life.
My time I spend praying and reading has helped me to balance everything. It might not be the same for everyone, but whatever allows you to reflect and appreciate everything you have will help you balance, because once you see the importance of faith, family, health career, etc., you will automatically want to balance it all. I’ve come to see that everything I’ve been handed should not be taken for granted or be neglected.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
I’ve learned the fathers understand their roles and influence on their children. It makes me so proud and happy to be a dad when I see other dads that unselfishly dedicate themselves to their children. I also see fathers who work so hard, but still manage to spend quality time with their children, it’s very encouraging.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
I try to see my children in their future and remind myself how big of a role I play in their lives, now and later. I pray that they grow up successful, happy and doing what they are called to do, but I also realize that what I do with my life, will affect what they become. Life hasn’t been perfect and it never will be, I know. We continue to have challenges come up. Our parenting will sometimes be questioned and so will our character, but as long as we are doing what’s best for our family, that’s what really matters.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
Times when everything is chaotic at home or anywhere else and I just stare at my wife and kids and realize it’s the best thing ever. I love to see my kids eyes light up with excitement and even when they come to me crying. I enjoyed my life when I was young and single, but it doesn’t compare to the joy I have with my wife and kids. even the stressful moments!